What does Ellen White write about...
Adventistische Schriften über: "Please help me analyze the continuity and the nature of my relationship in the light of God's Word."
Answer
In the light of God's Word, a healthy relationship is founded on Christ being placed first, which also deepens and steadies mutual love. The nature of a God‑pleasing bond is characterized by mutual care, patience, and the preservation of personal conscience freedom and individuality before God. The continuity and blessed power of a relationship depend essentially on the consistency with which the character of Christ is reflected in daily interaction and in dealing with mistakes.
Putting Christ First and Preserving Individuality
»In your life together, your affections should serve the happiness of the other. Each should contribute to the other's happiness. This is God's will for you. Yet while you are to merge into one unity, none of you may lose his or her individuality in the other. God is the owner of your individuality. From Him you should ask: What is right? What is wrong? How can I best fulfill the purpose of my creation? ... Your love for what is human should be subordinate to your love for God. The wealth of your affection should flow to Him, who gave His life for you. ... Make Christ the First, the Last, and the Best in all things. Constantly look to Him, and your love for Him will grow deeper and stronger each day as it is tested. And as your love for Him increases, your love for one another will grow deeper and stronger.«
Questions to Examine the Nature and Spiritual Direction of a Relationship
»Will this new relationship be a source of true happiness? Will it be a help to you in the Christian life? Will it be pleasing to God? Will your example be secure for others to follow? Before she extends her hand to marriage, each woman should inquire whether the one she intends to bind her destiny to is worthy. ... Is the love he expresses of noble, lofty character, or is it merely emotional affection? Does he possess the character traits that will make her happy? Can she find true peace and joy in his affection? Will she be allowed to preserve her individuality, or must her judgment and conscience be subjected to her husband's control? As a disciple of Christ, she does not belong to herself; she has been dearly purchased. Can she give the Redeemer's claims the highest rank?«
The Continuity of Christian Influence and Character
»The steady life, patient forbearance, the spirit unshaken under provocation is always the most convincing argument and the most solemn appeal. ... The continuity of Christian influence is the secret of its power, and this depends on the steadfastness of your revelation of Christ's character. Help those who have erred by telling them of your experiences. Show how—when you made serious mistakes—patience, kindness, and helpfulness from your coworkers gave you courage and hope.«
True Heartfelt Unity and Mutual Appreciation
»A house full of love, where love is expressed in words, looks, and deeds, is a place where angels gladly reveal their presence and sanctify the scene with rays of glorious light. ... Love should be seen in glances and manners and heard in the tone of voice. ... You are not one in heart. You take a position over her and behave as if her judgment and opinion mattered not. You think your spiritual achievements are far ahead of hers. My brother, you do not know yourself. God looks at the heart, not at words or confession. The outward appearances do not count for God as they do for people. God values a humble heart and a broken spirit.«
Original Sources (English)
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